The guy you just met seems like a real catch: he’s charming, interesting and downright irresistible! You’re really beginning to like him and could really see things flourishing, but first you need to know if he’s boyfriend material or not. If you’re having a hard time deciphering your potential beau, here are seven signs your new love interest is bad news.
He’s In A Relationship. Before you mumble, “Yeah, duh. Of course” think about whether or not you or someone you know has ever tried to justify dating a man that was attached. Here’s the truth: he more than likely won’t leave his relationship, and if he does he’s probably not the man for you anyway. Like my mother always says, “If he’d cheat with you, he’d cheat on you.”
Too Many Promises. Beware if there’s a lot of talk of big future plans early on. Bad boys will try to woo you with what they think you want to hear. Don’t get too wrapped up in talks of love, marriage, babies, clothing, fine jewelry or exotic trips.
Night Owl. If he only calls or texts after 10PM, chances are he’s only interested in engaging in “intimate relations.” You may also even be an after thought. If a serious relationship is your ultimate goal, let him know you’re not solely interested in late night “pillow talk.” If he can’t handle that, move on. You’re worth more than that.
He Dodges Questions. It may come across as mystery, but he’s really hiding something. If a man really wants you, he’ll be open to your questions. How else will you get to know him? If he keeps avoiding those getting-to-know-you talks, it may be time to move on.
Straight Flexin’. If he is consumed only with his imagery – how he lives, what he drives, his “swagger” – he’s probably bad news. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good, but these types of men tend to be shallow and superficial. Date men with goals, ambitions, and dreams, too.
He Warns You That He’s Not Relationship Material. If he says things like: “I’m not looking for anything serious,” take the blatant hint, and get out of there. His intentions are already set. Don’t try to be the woman to “change” him. He will change on his own when the right woman comes along.
Moving Too Quickly. Some men will say just about anything to get a woman to have sex with him. Some will even go as far as to say, “I love you” just to hook up. Don’t give into his sweet talk. It may seem romantic, but he’s really just trying to get you to hop into bed with him.
About the author: Mariah Thompson is a 20-something year old writer living and loving in Atlanta, GA. Follow her on Twitter.