Is It Okay For Women To Pursue Men?

I’m not gonna waste any time here: women can and should ask men out. In exchange, men will not judge girls who ask them out. I think most men will agree: A desperate woman is a woman crouched on their doorstep and licking their bedroom window, not a woman trying to make plans. No matter who likes it or not, women are active participants in the dating world, and the idea that one gender is “responsible” for initiating a relationship is old-fashioned in this day and age. Are we to simply pine, swoon, and bury our faces behind handkerchiefs until some gracious fellow (we may or may not be interested in) decides we’re dateable? I think not! Shouldn’t our dating pool be wider than just the men who approach us? Absolutely! After all, this isn’t a made-for-TV Margaret Mitchell film. Gone are the days where women have to wait for men to come calling.

black-couple-flirtingIf there’s a guy you’ve been eyeing, ask him out. This isn’t a rule. It’s just a very strong suggestion. Actually, when it comes to matters of love and dating, I am very anti-rule. I believe love is meant to be a joyful whirlwind. You can’t control, wrangle, or tame it. You must learn to give in to the anarchy and realize that despite the stress and risk, it is life’s greatest reward. So, wipe your sweaty palms on your pants, and take a chance, girl! What’s the worst that can happen?

Oh, yeah, and here’s how to do it. Be calm, sweet, and most importantly non-aggressive. Whether it be in person or over the phone, here’s a general script:

YOU: Hey

HIM: Hey

YOU: Do you have any plans this weekend?

HIM: Nope, none. Wassup?

YOU: Well, I was wondering if you’d like to go out with me? I was thinking we could do dinner/movie/etc?

HIM: Sure! Sounds good.

The end. Even if he doesn’t accept, handle the situation the same way you’d want a gentleman asking you out to handle it: with respect and dignity. No rude remarks!


About the author: Mariah Thompson is a 20-something year old writer living and loving in Atlanta, GA. Follow her on Twitter.


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