In the summer of 2009, I met my Mr. Right…or so I thought. He was tall, dark, handsome and just as goofy as me. Not only was he educated with a good job, but he was also childfree, owned a house, and loved his mama. I remember thinking I’d hit the jackpot because he was essentially everything I’d been looking for in a man. I’d finally caught a break and found a man who was looking for something more than just a friend. After a few weeks of dating, we recognized each others value and wanted each other all to ourselves and we agreed to be exclusive.
As time went on, we grew closer, but recognized we had certain differences that could potentially cause problems for us. For instance, he wanted a family and I wasn’t sure that I did. However, we convinced each other that our love would conquer all and that we would revisit that topic at a later date. I could picture our future without children, but he couldn’t, and just like that, things with Mr. Right started to go wrong. A later date seemed to be every couple of months and eventually we had to face the hard truth, our love for one another just wasn’t enough. We began to compromise less in our relationship because we knew in the end that it wasn’t going to work.
Ultimately, I knew that I couldn’t continue to string him along with the hope of me one day changing my mind. It wasn’t fair to either one of us and even though we were good together, I knew we could be great with other people. People who wanted to the same things we did. Although it was hard, we both knew the right thing to do was to say our goodbyes and go our separate ways. It took courage to end our relationship, but I definitely learned a lot about myself from this experience.
I learned that just because you find a Mr. Right, doesn’t mean he’s necessarily your Mr. Right. A person who knows their worth and what they want in a relationship should never be afraid to walk away from something good to find something great. I also believe that if you found love once, that it’s bound to find you again. Don’t give into societal pressures and settle for something you know deep down inside isn’t right for you. So even when things go wrong with Mr. Right, stay encouraged, because a love that will last you a lifetime is truly worth the wait.