Why do fools fall in love? Better yet, why do fools get married? Ever since the whole Kim and Chris divorce, I can’t help but ponder the sanctity of marriage. I mean they were only husband and wife for about 72 hours and that was it. Nowadays, the concept of marriage is beginning to lose its valor. You say you love the person, agree to forever, and suddenly the reality of longevity kicks in and the “till death do us part” clause is no longer glorified.
So what’s the point of getting married in the first place?
I always perceived marriage to be a beautiful union between man and wife, the legal bond that represents the love to which two people have for one another. It’s like putting the cherry on top of an ice cream; marriage helps make the relationship better than what it is because the commitment is real. Two people are choosing to spend the rest of their lives together and agree to love no one else on a passionate level, and I can’t help but to truly appreciate that engagement.
But now it seems as though the idea of marriage has journeyed back to the medieval and Victorian eras, where marriage was performed as a matter of acquiring money, establishing power or staying out of trouble. During that time, marriage was also treated as a mandate for noble families, as a means of continuing the family heir. There was no reason to love in order to join in holy matrimony (despite the irony) and people disrespected their partners through adultery and frivolous encounters with secret lovers. It reminds me of those guys who have the perfect women as wives but still chose to cheat with outside females for “the thrill.”
To make matters worst, marriage is also viewed in a negative light. Potential spouses believe that they would be tied down for the rest of their lives if they put a ring on it, and never again have the opportunity to meet and fool around with other people (as if that should even matter). I think that’s why there are some couples who become “common law couples” who do everything in the book, like share bank accounts and have lived with one another for 10 years or more, but do not have the good-old marriage license. It’s just a cop-out. And don’t get me started about how marriage is being executed. People spend their hard earn savings on over-the-top ceremonies, and bride maids become extreme maniacs and forget that the day for both her and her husband.
At the end of the day, the idea of marriage should not be taken lightly. If two people are serious about tying the knot, it should be something that they are truly ready for. If that means counseling or asking the man above if this is what is to be, then so be it. Marriage should be looked at as a spiritual union that lasts even beyond the parameters of life itself. But how are we suppose to believe that if we have couples going into a marriage just for the sake of going into a marriage and have no intentions of going the distance for their bond?
Why do fools get married if they’re not brave enough to stick it out? I guess it was foolish for them to get married in the first place.