He asked you out and you are going on a date with him! Now, what are you going to wear? You have to get your hair, nails, and makeup done; a little coif, primp, and pamper are required. Maybe it is time for a new outfit, or will you spice up that rocking outfit you already have with some accessories? The last addition are some sexy heels or wedges to complement your entire ensemble. You want to give your date the right first impression. It is the deal maker or breaker of a pending relationship. Although looks make up the a vast percentage of your date’s first impression of you, it is not the only determining factor. There are the light interrogations, the flirting, how long it takes for you to freshen up during a bathroom break, and the ritual paso doble of who pays for the bill at the end of the meal. Do you reach for the check? Do you even bother to take the hand of your date in this check dance? Who is paying for that bill?
In the 21st century, who should pay for the date? Are you mindful of the tradition of letting him pay? Are you all for trailblazing along the unconventional path and paying for yourself? Are you willing to compromise
and split the bill? Will you chip in and pay for the tip? How does your date feel about this issue?
The journal Evolutionary Psychology recently reported that looks may determine how a woman feels about footing the bill. In a study done by the University of St.Andrews in Scotland, the more attractive a woman thinks she is, the less likely she is to pay for the meal. Also, while men are more willing to pay for the bill, the more attractive he thinks he is, the less likely he will want to pay. Appreciating a person’s hotness takes more than a double take and asking for a phone number these days.
Is that why the last guy you went on a date with let you foot the bill? Did he think that he was better-looking than you? That was probably the case. According to this study, your date (or even you) may see your attractiveness as a hefty investment. Either one of you have the awesome privilege of spending time with Mr. or Ms. Hot Stuff, of course the less attractive candidate must foot the bill! It is the very least that he or you can do!
The issue of the check paso doble runs deeper than who is the matador or the bull by the end of the night. A
woman’s insistence on paying the bill can also indicate that the date did not go well, while waiting for the guy to pay indicates quite the opposite. When the guy pays for the bill, this may also indicate that he may want to see you again.
Many men also consider the act of paying for a date as a rite of manhood. His upbringing may have a lot to do with it. Does he open the car door for you, or opens the door to the restaurant? Does he make sure you are seated before he takes his seat? There is a high probability that he will insist on paying for the date. He may even get offended if you try to put in an offer to pay. That may be your kind of guy, or you could care less about who handles the expenses in the potential relationship. Either way, it may show how giving the guy is; it is said that actions speak louder than words.
Still, this is 2011! Is it wrong for a woman to want to pay for her date? Some women may take offense to a man grabbing the check and pulling out his cash or credit card as if the issue is already settled. In these current times, more women are receiving higher education, are getting better-paying jobs, and can handle that bill and the bar tab if they wanted to. Will a man automatically think that the woman is making a feminist statement by offering to pay or taking no for an answer when the guy wants to pay? This issue may be a bit more analogous to the paso doble than originally thought.
The 20th century addressed the power struggles between men and women, and laws were passed on account of it. Today in the 21st century, the ramifications of those laws are increasingly brought to light. Does it matter it if a man makes more than a woman? Should it matter if they are out on a date? In the new song, “212,“ Azealia Banks raps, “I just wanna sip that punch with your peeps and/ Sit in that lunch if you’re treatin’.“ This line is an inference to a social tradition that has been passed on from one man to the other: the guy is supposed to pay the bill, especially on a first date. Are they really supposed to, though? Is it intimidating to see a woman pull out her own cash or credit card? Money is always a touchy subject to converse about. Like the paso doble in the battle of the matador versus the bull, this looks like a power struggle in the works. Yet, unlike the ballroom dance where the man usually plays the matador, this role can be suitable for both genders. However, when in doubt, just split the bill and everything will be alright.