Guest Blog by AfroBlush
I might as well tell you straight off the bat, that I started this random hair rant after watching two episodes of the Tyra show, on the topic ‘Good hair’. I have watched the Chris Rock movie, and thought it was very good, however, it was the following webisodes, that actually put a lump in my throat. If you haven’t watched it, then you can look forward to girls proudly stating how their hair has that “white girl flow” which makes it superior to their other kinky counterparts. Last and but painfully not least, is the children at the end, some of which, prefer to wear blond wigs than go to school with their natural hair. I didn’t finish the second episode because I got too emotional and started writing this blog post…but I will finish it now…
(oh, before I go, there is also a woman who dated outside her race so that her children my have good hair :’-( )
My rant: Yesterday my friend commented that black girls with natural hair are ‘so self righteous’, and although I have come across some black women with natural hair that have a sort of well…arrogant twang. I don’t think it is because women with natural hair think they are better than anyone else, but rather they are just proud that they have managed to beat the odds and one element which is part of the pressures of living in a western society; and even more so, living within afro communities with western expectations for afro hair.
I have no problem with relaxed or non-relaxed hair.I believe not all relaxed hair is susceptible to damage and not all natural hair can be realistically maintained for many of us who live a busy lifestyle.
However, what I do have a problem with…in fact, I more than have a problem with it, as it actually breaks my heart to see; is black women who just don’t think they are good enough because their hair does not look European. Frankly, I find that the non-black people I have come into contact with have a high appreciation for afro hair, and although not all may be fully able to understand it, they like it and are often the first to compliment its versatility. Yet, it is among our own that we sow seeds of discontentment…and its extremely sad to see.
One of my favourite comedians, Kat Williams said:
“It’s terrible when women blame others for messing with their self esteem…err, its called “SELF-ESTEEM, as in it’s the esteem of yourself! So you need to remind yourself that you are the *bomb, and not look to other people for certification.”Well that’s the mild version…but you can listen to the full version of that joke here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jZN8mdIm1OM