As women, we have all experienced heartbreak or betrayal before. Constant tears, scrunched up tissues, and sweatpants become our best friends. After sadness, emotions churn towards anger or indifference. No matter where our emotions turn, we just can’t let go of the fact that we have been hurt. The saying is ingrained in our minds: forgive but never forget. As women, we have to be able to forgive those who have hurt us and remember that we can get through it and become stronger. Forgiving frees us mentally and allows us to go on with our lives in a happier state.
Forgiving means to let go of anger towards someone and letting go of the harm they have done. You are allowing yourself to live peacefully and stay joyful.
Holding a grudge requires a lot of energy and wastes of time. If you see someone you do not like in the street, instead of taking the time to make sure you give him or her a mean face, you can simply walk on by without a care in the world or kill them with kindness and say hello. Your mind is more relaxed and in turn you are more relaxed when you are able to keep yourself positive.
When something is troubling you your mind is often trying to find the right answers. It works to figure out why this and that happened or what can you do to fix it. Your sleep may decrease and your energy may decline. Once this happens, everything else goes downhill. If you do not have the heart to forgive someone, it will take a toll on your body, mind, and soul. Your heart will harden and you will begin to see circumstances in a negative light. You will be so stuck on the past that you won’t realize there is a bright future ahead.
In order to forgive someone, you can receive closure by talking one-on-one with that person and getting to the bottom of what happened and why. Communication is the primary key to a healthy relationship and always clears the fog between two people. Therapists or psychologists are also helpful sources to rid your heart of grudges. If you are religious, reading through the Bible is not only meditative but also serves an excellent source on how to realize the power of forgiveness in your life.
Staying angry with an ex-boyfriend will not bring a new boyfriend around. As women, we have the tendency to wear our hearts on our sleeve and show our emotions to the world. When a new guy comes around, he will be able to tell if a woman is still fixated on her ex. If a woman allows herself to forgive and forget the harm done to her, she will be able to have a new perspective on life and the men coming into her life. This will show on her face, in her attitude, clothes, and voice.
As Audrey Hepburn once said, “I believe the happiest girls are the prettiest girls.” Stay blissful by forgiving anyone who has broken your chance at living your life happily.