Diamonds are a girl’s best friend but nothing can–and I do mean nothing–can make her scream like the perfect ring. We want it all. The husband, kids, nice cars, big house, successful careers all wrapped nicely in safe neighborhood–all which are things that we have the power to choose. What we don’t have control over is the size of the rock on the engagement ring. So I ask: Does it really matter? Understanding the idea that symbolism is everything in this case I would say that the ring does hold value but how that value is calculated may be different for every woman. Personally, the engagement ring being presented alone means everything.
First, I feel as if it shows that the man not only values me and my relationship with him enough to consider “forever” with me but that it’s something that he wants as well. Secondly, not only has he considered me to be his wife but he has received some type of confirmation that I am the woman that he’s suppose to marry or else he wouldn’t have purchased a ring (even if it’s not the ring of my dreams). Lastly, what’s a proposal without it!
“The ring is a symbol of love and the guy’s commitment to his future wife.” I thought every woman thought like this until I heard recently heard the statement “I feel that if he gets me a small [diamond] that doesn’t mean he loves me as much as I think, but if he gets me a large one then that means he really loves me a lot.”—Are you freaking kidding me? Seriously?
If all marriages depended on the size of the ring then we don’t have much to look forward to. Prime example: Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries, married for a whopping 2 seconds (72 days), multi-million dollar wedding, million dollar engagement ring, diamond size(weight): 20.5 carats.
According to this information he really loves her–a lot. According to this information they should STILL be married and remain married forever. Or at least that’s weird assumption that society has somehow managed to create that has now turned into an epidemic; one that is killing the true meaning behind the purpose of an engagement ring.
So again ladies I ask, “Why does size matter?” This puts so many thoughts in my head right now. So many questions, one in particular being if the ring didn’t possess as many carats as you would like would you still say yes? Or would you refuse until he found something more suitable for you? What does that say? If you refuse to settle for a smaller carat weight does it put us in the category of being shallow individuals that have a warped view of true love and it’s essence because we measure it by material things? If we are the girl that’s perfectly fine with the smaller diamond does it somehow prove that we are settling when we could have more or that we just understand that love itself is not measured in such a way.
Elisabeth Elliot wrote in her book Let Me be a Woman, “Love knows no limits to its endurance, no end to its trust, no fading of its hope; it can outlast anything. It is, in fact, the one thing that stands when all else has fallen.”
This statement to me means that love itself is something intangible. It exists without a tangible companion. Therefor things such as engagement rings are simply outward expressions of love that may come in the form of a 20.5 carat diamond ring or 2 carat diamond ring, but the ring size doesn’t verify how much your man loves you.