Lately–well more like since I can remember– I’ve always seen a lot of “becoming a better you…”, “the new you in the new year”, “a healthier you” and any other self-help titled literature and I’ve always wondered two things: 1. Who actually reads this? 2. Who actually does it after they read it? For the latter, if you don’t do all of it then you don’t fit into that category–just saying.
The point I’m getting to is that each year whether it be during the beginning, middle or end people always have a “light bulb moment” where they want to let go of their old life and move forward into a better one with less drama, more success, love, romance, etc. and it just brings me back to my days of doing this and why I don’t do it anymore. Now I’m not saying that I don’t have goals but I’m saying that I’ve found the cure to where I don’t have to keep going through this cycle.
People’s wants and needs stem from a more intangible purpose meaning that what exists in the physical realm will never be sufficient because its use and performance limits the depth of its fulfillment. John Piper says in his book, Desiring God: Meditations of a Christian Hedonist, “…the infinite abyss can only be filled by an infinite and immutable object, that is to say only by God Himself.”
The word “desire” is not only a verb but it is also a noun. We are desire driven beings. A desire is a conscious impulse toward something that promises satisfaction and enjoyment in its attainment. Our desires stem from an intangible source but we tend to satisfy them in the most inappropriate, inefficient and incorrect manner every single time and thus we fall short of our standards and ultimately God’s standards for us.
We settle for sex (physical) not realizing that we have an initial desire to be loved. We settle for mediocre success over looking the need for recognition. We choose friends that don’t fit in our moral codes and standards out of seeking self actualization. And ladies…we allow ourselves to be in the company of abusive men out of a need to feel safe…now if you don’t catch the irony in this last statement I don’t know what to tell you. Then again, I do.
Going back to the above quote from John Piper, I would tell everyone that I agree with him in his findings that God is the ultimate Fulfill(er), Satisfy(er) and Provide(r) for all of our wants, needs, and desires. This was the cure to all of my unhappiness, loneliness, hurt, pain–my endless cycle of creating goals only to see them fall through. The reason this works is because God’s not only exist in the physical abyss but the infinite as well…He is able to get the very source of our desires…after all, He created them. You a have desire to be loved…God is love. In fact he loved you so much that he sent in only son to die on the cross for our sins that we may have life. “Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13) God calls us his friends so there is no need to feel lonely. You desire security…whether it be physically or financially God will never let the righteous be moved nor will he forsake them. The Lord is our Help. “If God is for us who can be against us?” (Romans 8:36) Your looking for self-actualization…why not go to your creator to find your identity and purpose in life. The list goes on and on. Any desire you have he will give it to you according to His will for your life.
I know it seems that I gave more instructions for reading but the difference is that reading about God is not enough. You have to pursue a relationship with Him. How else can you establish, love, honor, trust, loyalty or any other type of meaningful bond if there isn’t a genuine motive behind it. We always talk about getting rid of the people who bring us down in life and being more choosy when it comes to company…choose Christ. He’s much more supportive, way less stressful, very considerate and the ultimate lover.
But if you continue to look at those “10 Ways to Improve You in the New Year” relying solely on them to change your life you will always be unsatisfied because those are temporary fixes. God is permanent and life changing and will never go back on His promises. If you choose Him in the new year you break the cycle and inherit a firm change.